I don’t mean physical strength – that can be made from lifting weights. I’m talking about emotional strength, having the determination to succeed, regardless of how you feel when you wake up in the morning. When you set yourself a goal, and the progress of said goal can be seen every day in the reflection of a mirror, it can be demoralising when you don’t see the results you want.


I have always believed in setting an overall aim to work towards, be it with school, university or dancing. But more recently it has been with my fitness journey. In order to make sure this overall aim doesn’t become too daunting, unrealistic or impractical, it’s important to set yourself mini goals along the way. You can do this by setting a time frame/limit or an achievement – either work well and will depend on the overall destination you’re aiming to get to. After all, it is a journey.

Any goal will take a while to accomplish – ESPECIALLY with fitness related ones. Forget FAD diets and magic pills, building up your overall fitness, losing weight or toning up will all take time. And quite a lot of it. That’s the first hurdle most people’s journeys fall at, if you’ve got to grips and understand that goals aren’t fulfilled overnight, you’ve already achieved more than others.

While you need an enormous amount of motivation to even begin your fitness journey, sometimes it’s required even more so later on when your results begin to minimise and your habits return. Old habits die hard, after all, and it’s said it can take up to 6 weeks of changed behaviour in order to break a habit.

So where is this fictional thing called ‘motivation’ found? and more importantly, once you’ve found it, how do you keep it? Once again this does depend on your goal. Focus firstly on what it means to you to achieve it, picture yourself a year down the line and think how far you’ll be. Ultimately 365 days would still have passed, but it’s how you spend those days that will count. You’ll find it near impossible to be motivated if you’re stressed and worried, so remember to relax; find something that will calm you if you do become stressed (if this, like me, means going to the gym then it’s a win-win!). Lastly, be confident! There’s no point setting a goal if you don’t believe you can achieve it, which links back to creating goals that are actually attainable


Remind yourself of a few things whenever you lose motivation:

1. Don’t be too hard on yourself:
If you miss a workout, or have a slice of cake, don’t punish yourself for it. It happens, everyone is human! One bad meal won’t make you fat, just like one good meal won’t make you skinny.

2. Be realistic:
Don’t give yourself a goal that simply isn’t obtainable. You may think it’s going to increase your motivation but you’ll only be left disappointed when you aim to have Michelle Keegan’s body after 2 weeks of healthy eating. Saying this, I’m all for fitspo’s (Steph Pacca if you’re reading this, I LOVE YOU) just make sure they’re people that share your body shape because genetics can be a bitch.

3. Reward yourself:
Just not with food, you’re not a dog. But when you reach those mini goals you’ve set yourself, buy some new gym clothes, a new pair of trainers, some new killer heels or hit the spa for a relaxing day away. There are so many ways to give yourself a pat on the back rather than reaching for the cookie jar.


Have a nice weekend, y’all!